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Are There Winners & Losers?
I had a depressing mediation session recently. These types of sessions make me realize that mediation is an opportunity, but not everyone...
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Six Things Your Litigator Doesn’t Want You To Know
Six Things Your Lawyer Doesn’t Want You To Know or Why You Should Mediate Your Divorce Children Your children will never thank you for...
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The Draw of Conflict
To my mind, the costs of litigation and of fighting are so high, that I really can’t imagine deciding that I would rather fight than...
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Protecting Children From Conflict & Self Blame
I was watching a movie the other night, Future Weather. A 13-year-old girl comes home from school and finds a note from her mother...
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Mediation v. Litigation
I was called in for a court ordered mediation for a post-divorce couple, about to have a trial. The Mother requested a custody change....
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Sensitivity & Pain
One of the most painful issues that I see among divorcing couples is the tendency to self blame to a fault. Meaning, person one says...
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The Challenge of Seeing Both Sides
I had an irate email from a former client, who is now in litigation with her husband and was feeling (retroactively) that I was not...
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After sleeping on it…
After sleeping on it, I’m thinking that a lot of whether people can start out from a ‘fair’ position, or whether they start negotiations...
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Do You Enjoy Fighting?
I saw my cousin over the weekend. Her brother is a drug addict. He steals from his parents, never holds jobs, is in & out of jail. She...
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Seeing People Change
Probably the most important piece in order to mediate, is to have two people who want to come through the big picture OK. Neither out to...
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