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The True Hard Work of Love and Relationships
I just listened to the podcast, On Being, the guest was Alain de Botton, philosopher, writer & founder of The School of Life . His work...
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Children’s Need Can Be Our Guide
I met with a couple who about 14 years ago, used mediation for their divorce and wanted to resolve a new conflict in their restructured...
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Why Mediating A Prenup Can Be Beneficial:
A distraught woman called me, saying that over the course of 4 months she and her fiancé had paid over $10,000 in attorney’s fees trying...
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Moving from Litigation to Mediation
In mediation, we start from an underlying premise that we can find a place which will meet the needs of all family members. In litigation...
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Fuel for Conflict
People get into horrible fights when what they're fighting about isn't what they're really fighting about… I'm parenting coordinator, not...
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Does 50/50 reflect your feelings of self worth?
Often in mediation, we discover how conflict brings forward other issues, including those of self worth. A couple, we'll call them Allie...
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Review: HBO Show Divorce
I just watched the first episode of HBO's Divorce. They got so much right. The humanity, pain and flaws in us all. The irritation we feel...
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Negotiation in the Shadow of Threat
I had a call from Josh*, who wants me to be his reviewing attorney. He and his wife Becka* are working with another mediator. Josh and...
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Relocation & Zero Sum Discussion
Sometimes I'm incredibly moved by this work. There's so much at stake, my client's entire world. One couple, the husband was a...
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On the Same Side?
It's a challenge in many relationships, to communicate your needs in ways that doesn’t come across as slamming your partner. I see men...
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